Flip the Script: Women dismantling their inner patriarchal conditioning

Andrea Hylen
5 min readFeb 25, 2024
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Day Eighty-three

Women dismantling their inner patriarchal conditioning

“What I want young women and girls to know is: You are powerful and your voice matters. You’re going to walk into many rooms in your life and career where you may be the only one who looks like you or who has had the experiences you’ve had. But you remember that when you are in those rooms, you are not alone. We are all in that room with you applauding you on. Cheering your voice. And just so proud of you. So you use that voice and be strong.” ~Kamala Harris

When I started Heal My Voice in 2011, I was aware of three things that were vital to create in the environment of the nine-month program of writing, speaking, and stepping into greater leadership with women.

1. A safe space for women to express themselves vulnerably and let down their guard.

2. Opportunities for collaboration and trust building with direct, honest conversations.

3. Space holding for women to heal their relationships with each other when current conversations brought up feelings from the past.

There was something happening in the group that none of us really knew in the beginning. It felt like we were on the frontier of interacting in a new way.

I knew in my belly and heart that this was important work for women to do together but I didn’t have the words to express the underbelly of how writing a story to heal while in community was helping to heal our relationships with women. Now it is easy to see how the resources and systems in Heal My Voice and Heal My Voice Sweden were dismantling colonialism and patriarchal systems that had been ingrained since birth and for generations of women who came before us.

This dismantling continues in the Incubator, and we have only begun to scratch the surface.

Pause here for a moment and let’s look at the last 250–300 years of how women had to compete with other women for survival. We lost our villages of support and in the societies that were created, women were powerless without a man. In many countries, women couldn’t inherit money or be landowners. If they were, there was usually a male relative…



Andrea Hylen

Founder of Heal My Voice and The Incubator. Life Scientist. Live house-free. Widow. Mom of Adult Daughters. Grief. Writing Sexuality. Evolutionary Woman